I’m a Bad Bitch

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Today I had to remind myself that I’m a bad bitch. For a hot minute, I forgot about all of the shit I had to overcome to get to where I am. I had to survive for such a long time that when surviving turned into thriving, I didn’t notice.

The funny thing about change is that it happens gradually. I didn’t even realize that I went from wondering about how I was going to deal with my sexual abuse turned into wondering about what I wanted to accomplish next. When fear and trauma no longer became something that brought shame to me, but rather something I embraced as a part of my life my herstory, that’s the moment I became stronger.

My strength didn’t come from other people’s views, but rather my own. I made a decision to stop hiding from my past, and live with it. Let’s get real, I’be been through some shit people couldn’t comprehend.

The sad part about all of this, is that I forgot. Things I wished for growing up, I accomplished and I forgot to recognize the accomplishments. I started to compare myself to other. Frankly, I got so accustomed to worrying about third problems problems, that I forgot about my herstory. My experiences. The experiences that despite the ugliness make me who I am.

I forgot that I was a bad fucking bitch. My apologies, that I AM a bad fucking bitch with a badass support system. A system that love the bisexual black fiery, tarot and crystal loving, energy reading soul that I am.

You’re a bad fucking ass, and don’t you forget it. If you do, remember who you are.



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What would you do if you saw your family murdered in front of you? What would you do if the justice system failed? How far would you go to get justice, or should I say vengeance? 

These are all of the questions that are explored and brought up during this movie. Once your world is turned upside down, once you hit rock bottom, what do you become?

One of my coworkers said the other day that – I would colour outside of the law if the law contradicted my values and beliefs. When I heard him, my first thought was, who does this guy think he is? However, went I listened, and truly understood what he meant, I realized, he was right. 

After watching, Peppermint, I realized that I walk to the beat of my own drum, and no mundane rules and regulations are going to stop me. I wouldn’t suggest committing a series of murders to get justiceNonetheless, I will say this – despite all the murder, injustice, and corruption in this movie, it was impossible to NOT root for the widowed mother. It was impossible to not feel her pain, and see her suffering. It was impossible not to empathize with her, to root for her. My heart truly felt for her. I was the one crying in the theatre like a little bitch.

If you haven’t already, I would suggest you take some time and watch, Peppermint. In my opinion, Jennifer Garner, hasn’t been this good since Alias.

That’s all folks!

I Feel Pretty

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I must admit, I’ve been avoiding watching the movie I Feel Pretty.  I really liked the concept of the movie, but I really really really don’t like Amy Schumer. However, I’m currently in the process of watching  the movie and I must say, it’s something.

This notion of self-confidence through mindfulness is amazing. As is the idea that “you are what you attract.” If you think you are worthless and ugly others will too because you are vibrating at a low level. BUT, if you think you are awesome and worthy of abundance then you’re life and company will reflect that because of your high vibrations.

“You know who you are and you really don’t care how the world sees you.” -Ethan

The quotation above sums up the beauty of this movie. It talks about Self-Confidence, Body Positivity, and Acceptance in a way that media just simply isn’t doing yet.

We live in world where the shift to mindlessfull and happiness is dramtically changing into a value that is intrinstic instead of extrinstic. I’m grateful that media representation is starting to capture this shift in media, as well.

With that stated, this concept of self-confidence is probably the only thing they did correctly throughout this movie. This idea on a whole is about the only positive outcome. Nonetheless, I’m choosing to focus on the good, and this:

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If not, this post might just turn into a rant about white societal ideals on beauty – blond hair, blue eyes, and white. Point is – If everyone just abandoned their negative notions of why they aren’t beautiful enough, smarter enough or rich enough, and just accepted that you are enough – the world and you would be a much happier place.

Sense 8 Finale: Hopelessly Idealistic or Naive?

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I was HEARTBROKEN when I discovered that they cancelled, Sense8. Thus, when I found out that they would be returning to create a finale, I was ecstatic.

This is by FAR one of the most original and intricate shows in terms of sexuality and sexual relationships. I applaud the show, the actors and actresses, the writers, really anyone and everyone who helped make this show a reality because we needed to see more LGBTQA+ representation in the media. Personally, I think movies and tv shows are the way that minorities can be represented authentically and uniquely.

The notion of radical empathy is one that often comes up when discussing shows and movies such as Matrix, Cloud Altas, 13 Reasons Why, The End of the Fucking World, or Sense8. Radical empathy can be defined in many ways, but in it’s purest form radical empathy is an attempt to empathize with someone who is completely different from you. The way that artists go about portraying radical empathy is completely up to them. For instance, in 13 Reasons Why, the graphic sodomization scene is brutal and hard to watch, BUT it’s hard to not empathize with Tyler and feel his pain.


It’s almost impossible to stop empathizing with him, even when he makes the choice to commit a school shooting.  In either case, radical empathy is effective and is the new wave to show the audience life in someone else’s point of view.

What’s a better expression of radical empathy than an exploration of how everybody deserves pleasure, in whatever form they can find it? In a very real sense, all eight of these people are each other, in a way that ignores gender or race or other societal constructs that divide people into neat categories.

By ending Sense8 in their EPIC orgy, they yet again show the importance of accepting each other in all form no matter their gender, beliefs, religion, sexuality, or relationships. They illustrate all forms of love and suggest with their finale orgy scene that the best way to heal the world is through love.


It isn’t about beating any one bad guy, or any one awful ideology, but, rather, to find better ways to care for each other, to love each other, and, yes, to make each other feel really good. Naive or Hopeful? You decide.


Scandal: The Final Season, Final Episode

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I was a Scandal fan from the beginning, but I must say the last season, especially the last couple of episodes of the final season felt rushed and unfinished. By the end of the series, I was left with so many questions:

Does Abby find love again? Will Huck find love? Is Cyrus’ only punishment his guilt? What about Olivia’s mom? Did Jake deserve his fate? Did the Gladiator’s get off easy? What does the portrait in the gallery mean?

I still haven’t been able to fully digest everything that has happened within the 7 seasons of Scandal. Those who know me know that although I’m interested in all of these questions, I am more fascinated by some of the larger themes and notions that were discussed through the final episode.

Even though I can write a lot about several different ideas, I want to focus on a dichotomy that is present from day one, the idea of good vs. evil, heroes vs. villains, and gladiators vs. monsters.  Oliva passionately declares:

This is bigger than us,” […]“This is about the country. This is about patriotism: the end of politics, the beginning of leadership. It all has to come down, no matter the cost. . . We are not the heroes of this story. We are the villains. This is your chance to be a hero. This is positive change,”

There is one line from her dialogue that has stuck with me, “We are not the heroes of this story. We are the villains.” If her declaration is true, then why have we been cheering for the villains. The question arises, when did each character go from becoming a gladiator to a villain? Or, were they ever really heroes at all? Olivia once said…


Since we established at the end of the series that they aren’t the heroes or the gladiators of the story, so I guess they are the ladder… Personally, I think that the dichotomy, the notion that they are one or the other takes away from the complexity of the show and the complexity of politics. Yes, they have all done some horrible things, yet, the writers decided to murder one of the most innocent Gladiators in the group. What does this say about justice? What does this say about positive change? That people must sacrifice their lives in order to spark a change in others?

Honestly, I’m not sure. I think that’s the problem. Scandal had a HUGE platform, and they were able to bring light to so many issues and bring BLACK representation to a national platform. Oliva Pope openly told millions of people that minorities and BLACK people have to “be twice as good to get half of what they got.” Even in the finale, Command, REAL command spoke to a bunch of old white men and explain how HE ruled the country under their nose for YEARS! Talk about black power!

They could have strived for greatness and they did in the beginning BUT I don’t think the last season, the last two seasons embodied what Scandal is actually about, and don’t @ me! You know, I’m right…