Letting Go

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I really do think letting go of people is one of the hardest things to do! I’ve been through a lot of shit, but saying goodbye to someone, sorry, choosing to say goodbye to someone fucking sucks. Yes, I am completely aware that I’ve dicussed this topic before, but it’s just so pressing and relevant to my life that I feel the need to bring it up again.

Every time, I let go of someone it makes me realize the amount of strength neccesary to recognize that something isn’t for you and walking away. Nontheless we don’t just walk away from bad situation, sometimes we walk away from good people. The question that arises is why? Why walk away from good people? I read something today that reasonated with me.

Sometimes love doesnt align with our values.

I read this and it was kinda like an aha moment. I’ve been walking away from friendships and relationships with people, not because I don’t think they are fucking awesome, but rather because some of the things they are doing/how the are acting does not resonate with my values. Others might not understand, or better yet, others look at me like I’m crazy. However, it’s necessary for me.

If something goes against my belief system and my values, then it doesn’t matter how much I love you. The issue is not whether I love you or not, its whether I can accept what you’re doing even though it goes against my values.

My friend told me the other day that I’m very principled. I LOVE the word principled, and I LOVE that she associates that word with me.

Principled is defined as acting in accordance with morality and showing recognition of right and wrong.

I believe what I believe. I think what I think. I feel what I feel.

It is harder from me to accept something that I feel in my heart is wrong, then it is to walk away from someone I love because I simply can’t live with that type of turmoil in my heart.

At the end of the day, you have to do whats best for you. Not everyone will undertsand, and its not for everyone to understand. As long as its right in your heart, choose you.

 

 

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The Power of Affirmations

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There has been a lot of changes in my life recently: new-ish job, new-ish basement apartment, and recently single. There is something about changes and big life events that make you want to be wild and explore the things that were once not an option.
For me, a lot of these things were not an option, and not because they weren’t available, but because I put all these limitations on myself. We create this image of who we think we are, and eventual the perception becomes our reality. We spend so much time trying to fit in and hiding our real selves that we don’t even recognize ourselves. Or, even worst, we do not know what it even means to be ourselves.
For example, I always associated affirmations with religion. I did the same thing when people talked about mediating or charkas – I associated all with some form of religion. Little did I know that this subconscious association was stopping me from exploring their potential. I rebelled so hard against religion growing up for various reasons. I still consider myself more spiritual than religions. However, this rebellion was limiting me.
Since my break up, I’ve been expanding my horizons, and I must say – I have noticed a shift. I’ve been doing things that old-me would consider weird or wonky. The shift isn’t just in my emotional or spiritual well-being, the shift is in my entire mindset. I’m not sure if its the aromatherapy, the meditating, the healing stones, or the affirmations. Whatever the change is from, I love it and I tend to explore more.
All I know is that for the first time in a VERY long time, I was able to be the bigger person because I knew the Universe had my back. More importantly, I was told that they weren’t worth it. Growth. We never really know what causes it, we’re just happy when it happens.