The Power of Affirmations

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There has been a lot of changes in my life recently: new-ish job, new-ish basement apartment, and recently single. There is something about changes and big life events that make you want to be wild and explore the things that were once not an option.
For me, a lot of these things were not an option, and not because they weren’t available, but because I put all these limitations on myself. We create this image of who we think we are, and eventual the perception becomes our reality. We spend so much time trying to fit in and hiding our real selves that we don’t even recognize ourselves. Or, even worst, we do not know what it even means to be ourselves.
For example, I always associated affirmations with religion. I did the same thing when people talked about mediating or charkas – I associated all with some form of religion. Little did I know that this subconscious association was stopping me from exploring their potential. I rebelled so hard against religion growing up for various reasons. I still consider myself more spiritual than religions. However, this rebellion was limiting me.
Since my break up, I’ve been expanding my horizons, and I must say – I have noticed a shift. I’ve been doing things that old-me would consider weird or wonky. The shift isn’t just in my emotional or spiritual well-being, the shift is in my entire mindset. I’m not sure if its the aromatherapy, the meditating, the healing stones, or the affirmations. Whatever the change is from, I love it and I tend to explore more.
All I know is that for the first time in a VERY long time, I was able to be the bigger person because I knew the Universe had my back. More importantly, I was told that they weren’t worth it. Growth. We never really know what causes it, we’re just happy when it happens.
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I miss him, but that feeling comes and goes. I dream about him, and that’s when I miss him more.

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I’m single for the first time in two years. Funny how when you could just be picking up all of the pieces of yourself. Trying to make yourself the best version of you. You finally get there, only to be single and not be able to share your growth with the person you love. So, I’m single for the first time in two years and one of the best versions of myself that I could be right now. Yes, I still have wounds I need to heal and things I need to work on. But, knowing is half the battle right? So, I’m single for the first time in two years, the best version of myself that I could be right now – with upgrades to come, and I’ve never been most lost.

Pride Parade in Toronto: Walking with Indeed.com

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This past Sunday, I got the chance to walk in the Pride Parade in Toronto. More than that, I was able to do so with my best friend and my company, Indeed.com.

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Although my bestie does not work at Indeed, she was definitely rocking the swag. This experience was honestly the BEST experience of my life. You can laugh or blame the alcohol, but honestly, it was the people I was surrounded around that MADE this experience for me. People who were showing their authentic self, unapologetically. Being themselves without holding back, without hiding, and without fear.

Representation matters! I will continue to shout it from the rooftops, and this year, not only, did I see people expressing who they are, I saw BLACK people expressing who they are. Being apart of a minority who checks a lot of boxes of otherness in my identity, I always love when people, especially, black people being who they are.

I could go on and on, but I want to keep this short and sweet. I never felt so included, so loved, so seen, and so me. The only thing I would change was the weather, like why did it have to rain on my parade. All of those who came out know that the rain DID NOT stop us!

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I absolutely LOVED that the theme or slogan that I saw everywhere was “Celebrate Diversity.” I hope that this notion of celebrating diversity means that we celebrate ALL forms of diversity. I strongly believe that Pride is not just about diversity in sexuality and sex, I believe its about inclusivity for ALL people.

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Sense 8 Finale: Hopelessly Idealistic or Naive?

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I was HEARTBROKEN when I discovered that they cancelled, Sense8. Thus, when I found out that they would be returning to create a finale, I was ecstatic.

This is by FAR one of the most original and intricate shows in terms of sexuality and sexual relationships. I applaud the show, the actors and actresses, the writers, really anyone and everyone who helped make this show a reality because we needed to see more LGBTQA+ representation in the media. Personally, I think movies and tv shows are the way that minorities can be represented authentically and uniquely.

The notion of radical empathy is one that often comes up when discussing shows and movies such as Matrix, Cloud Altas, 13 Reasons Why, The End of the Fucking World, or Sense8. Radical empathy can be defined in many ways, but in it’s purest form radical empathy is an attempt to empathize with someone who is completely different from you. The way that artists go about portraying radical empathy is completely up to them. For instance, in 13 Reasons Why, the graphic sodomization scene is brutal and hard to watch, BUT it’s hard to not empathize with Tyler and feel his pain.

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It’s almost impossible to stop empathizing with him, even when he makes the choice to commit a school shooting.  In either case, radical empathy is effective and is the new wave to show the audience life in someone else’s point of view.

What’s a better expression of radical empathy than an exploration of how everybody deserves pleasure, in whatever form they can find it? In a very real sense, all eight of these people are each other, in a way that ignores gender or race or other societal constructs that divide people into neat categories.

By ending Sense8 in their EPIC orgy, they yet again show the importance of accepting each other in all form no matter their gender, beliefs, religion, sexuality, or relationships. They illustrate all forms of love and suggest with their finale orgy scene that the best way to heal the world is through love.

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It isn’t about beating any one bad guy, or any one awful ideology, but, rather, to find better ways to care for each other, to love each other, and, yes, to make each other feel really good. Naive or Hopeful? You decide.