Pride Parade in Toronto: Walking with

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This past Sunday, I got the chance to walk in the Pride Parade in Toronto. More than that, I was able to do so with my best friend and my company,


Although my bestie does not work at Indeed, she was definitely rocking the swag. This experience was honestly the BEST experience of my life. You can laugh or blame the alcohol, but honestly, it was the people I was surrounded around that MADE this experience for me. People who were showing their authentic self, unapologetically. Being themselves without holding back, without hiding, and without fear.

Representation matters! I will continue to shout it from the rooftops, and this year, not only, did I see people expressing who they are, I saw BLACK people expressing who they are. Being apart of a minority who checks a lot of boxes of otherness in my identity, I always love when people, especially, black people being who they are.

I could go on and on, but I want to keep this short and sweet. I never felt so included, so loved, so seen, and so me. The only thing I would change was the weather, like why did it have to rain on my parade. All of those who came out know that the rain DID NOT stop us!

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I absolutely LOVED that the theme or slogan that I saw everywhere was “Celebrate Diversity.” I hope that this notion of celebrating diversity means that we celebrate ALL forms of diversity. I strongly believe that Pride is not just about diversity in sexuality and sex, I believe its about inclusivity for ALL people.



Sense 8 Finale: Hopelessly Idealistic or Naive?

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I was HEARTBROKEN when I discovered that they cancelled, Sense8. Thus, when I found out that they would be returning to create a finale, I was ecstatic.

This is by FAR one of the most original and intricate shows in terms of sexuality and sexual relationships. I applaud the show, the actors and actresses, the writers, really anyone and everyone who helped make this show a reality because we needed to see more LGBTQA+ representation in the media. Personally, I think movies and tv shows are the way that minorities can be represented authentically and uniquely.

The notion of radical empathy is one that often comes up when discussing shows and movies such as Matrix, Cloud Altas, 13 Reasons Why, The End of the Fucking World, or Sense8. Radical empathy can be defined in many ways, but in it’s purest form radical empathy is an attempt to empathize with someone who is completely different from you. The way that artists go about portraying radical empathy is completely up to them. For instance, in 13 Reasons Why, the graphic sodomization scene is brutal and hard to watch, BUT it’s hard to not empathize with Tyler and feel his pain.


It’s almost impossible to stop empathizing with him, even when he makes the choice to commit a school shooting.  In either case, radical empathy is effective and is the new wave to show the audience life in someone else’s point of view.

What’s a better expression of radical empathy than an exploration of how everybody deserves pleasure, in whatever form they can find it? In a very real sense, all eight of these people are each other, in a way that ignores gender or race or other societal constructs that divide people into neat categories.

By ending Sense8 in their EPIC orgy, they yet again show the importance of accepting each other in all form no matter their gender, beliefs, religion, sexuality, or relationships. They illustrate all forms of love and suggest with their finale orgy scene that the best way to heal the world is through love.


It isn’t about beating any one bad guy, or any one awful ideology, but, rather, to find better ways to care for each other, to love each other, and, yes, to make each other feel really good. Naive or Hopeful? You decide.


Scandal: The Final Season, Final Episode

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I was a Scandal fan from the beginning, but I must say the last season, especially the last couple of episodes of the final season felt rushed and unfinished. By the end of the series, I was left with so many questions:

Does Abby find love again? Will Huck find love? Is Cyrus’ only punishment his guilt? What about Olivia’s mom? Did Jake deserve his fate? Did the Gladiator’s get off easy? What does the portrait in the gallery mean?

I still haven’t been able to fully digest everything that has happened within the 7 seasons of Scandal. Those who know me know that although I’m interested in all of these questions, I am more fascinated by some of the larger themes and notions that were discussed through the final episode.

Even though I can write a lot about several different ideas, I want to focus on a dichotomy that is present from day one, the idea of good vs. evil, heroes vs. villains, and gladiators vs. monsters.  Oliva passionately declares:

This is bigger than us,” […]“This is about the country. This is about patriotism: the end of politics, the beginning of leadership. It all has to come down, no matter the cost. . . We are not the heroes of this story. We are the villains. This is your chance to be a hero. This is positive change,”

There is one line from her dialogue that has stuck with me, “We are not the heroes of this story. We are the villains.” If her declaration is true, then why have we been cheering for the villains. The question arises, when did each character go from becoming a gladiator to a villain? Or, were they ever really heroes at all? Olivia once said…


Since we established at the end of the series that they aren’t the heroes or the gladiators of the story, so I guess they are the ladder… Personally, I think that the dichotomy, the notion that they are one or the other takes away from the complexity of the show and the complexity of politics. Yes, they have all done some horrible things, yet, the writers decided to murder one of the most innocent Gladiators in the group. What does this say about justice? What does this say about positive change? That people must sacrifice their lives in order to spark a change in others?

Honestly, I’m not sure. I think that’s the problem. Scandal had a HUGE platform, and they were able to bring light to so many issues and bring BLACK representation to a national platform. Oliva Pope openly told millions of people that minorities and BLACK people have to “be twice as good to get half of what they got.” Even in the finale, Command, REAL command spoke to a bunch of old white men and explain how HE ruled the country under their nose for YEARS! Talk about black power!

They could have strived for greatness and they did in the beginning BUT I don’t think the last season, the last two seasons embodied what Scandal is actually about, and don’t @ me! You know, I’m right…